Many people consider finger banging to be the sexual equivalent of a hand job. Unlike a hand job with its simple upward and downward strokes, and the occasional twist motion but fingering requires a bit more dexterity. The word fingering was first used to describe the technique that musicians use to play their instruments. If hand jobs are like rubbing your belly and patting your head, then fingering is like playing a private symphony. The stakes are high, and few people are offering standing ovations. So, how do you give a fingering performance, worthy of an encore?
Use a Lubricant
Lubricant is a necessary component to both internal and external finger stimulation. Many people choose a store-bought lubricant to prevent breaks in the skin. It is not uncommon to experience bleeding after partaking in certain sexual activities involving penetration. With this being said, there are many measures that can be put into place to prevent bleeding from occurring. Some of these measures include spending more time on foreplay, supplementing with a store-bought lubricant, or performing oral sex prior to penetrative play.
Wash Your Hands
Washing your hands before fingering your partner is an important part of preventing the spread of bacteria. Though these details may seem insignificant in the moment, they can lead to additional discomfort following play.
Trim Your Nails
Trimming your fingernails is considered a common courtesy before any sort of finger stimulation. However, more often than not, it isn’t the length of the nail that is a danger to your partner, but the callouses, jagged edges, and tags of skin that hang from your nail bed.
5 Techniques for Fingering Your Partner
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Count Down: Start by inserting a single, well lubed finger, into the vagina or anus. When your finger is inserted into your partners body, you’ll be able to better distinguish the contractions that are taking place. As the vagina or rectum relaxes against your finger, allow a second finger to slip inside, repeating the steps outlined above, until your partner feels satisfyingly full.
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Twister: Insert one to two fingers into the vagina or rectum, with your fingertips facing the ground. As your fingers extend to the back of the body, turn your fingers so that they are now facing the G-spot (or prostate) and drag them back out. This should create a small twisting motion that glides over the erogenous zones as you stroke.
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The Bird: Slide your middle finger into the vagina or anus, using the surrounding digits to stabilize the middle finger, by bending them at the knuckles and resting them against the body. Allow your middle finger to move freely inside your partner.
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The Body Plug: Place your thumb against the anus, perineum, or vaginal entry to stimulate these nerve dense regions! This area can be lightly held, tapped, or massaged, in order to prepare for penetrative play.
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The Come Hither: Curl your finger into the shape of a hook, facing your partners belly button. Then, drag your finger back towards your body in a come-hither motion.
Happy fingering!